It Takes Your True Self to be Non-Judgmental

Dying is hard but returning to life is even more difficult and challenging. What the heck am I talking about? I died in a boating accident and drowned in 1983. What I want to share are some of the life altering aftereffects a spiritually transformative experience can bring about in an experiencer’s life. Just think about it one minute and you can understand the conflict of living a life that is confining and limited in our physical form, when in the light we have an unlimited ability to connect to the universal all. It is an incredibly loving experience that is humbling beyond words. But back to life and living in this world after such an experience.

It’s important to look at judgment. In my near-death experience (NDE) there was an all all-encompassing life review that was shared with my soul family of light beings. The review looked at every detail of my life, good and bad. So you can imagine I did not want to share my most unsavory moments in life with this loving group of beings. I was judging myself, but the most marvelous thing, my soul family was not. They were emanating a pure love that was unconditional and there was no judgment attached.

In the Light you also see the interconnection between all living and non-living things in our universe. In addition every time we have an interaction with someone or something there is an energetic exchange. In physical life we can barely notice this exchange unless we train ourselves to be more sensitive. I learned from my life review, every time I used judgment against someone it created an energetic exchange that was disruptive and blinded me to the true nature of the situation. The ripples caused by those exchanges were even more disturbing than I knew. The more energy I put into a wrongly judged event the more far reaching the ripples of effect would range outward beyond my perception.

When returning to life after that experience I wanted to become as loving and nonjudgmental as my light family. But experiencers bump into a world of judgment. We feel and observe judgment about everything. We have lived a life full of habits that don’t change in an instant. Sometimes we can fool ourselves to think we can change that fast but it takes an effort to develop new habits. In life we have these wonderful emotions that can be attached to our judgment and when that happens most of the time we blind ourselves to the truth. Many times we rush passionately forward, unknowing the truth, only to create suffering. After many mistakes we remember the truth and slowly change.

You cannot be exposed to that much unconditional love without it changing the way you work and think. Some call it a re-wiring of the mind psyche. What ever it is, it happens to most spiritual experiencers and it changes the way we live our lives. We can’t help it. Many people see us as detached because we don’t want to jump to judgment. That is not true, we are much more attached than ever and trying to see as clearly as we can in this bodily form. We will use discernment and look at things with our hearts until we feel we know the truth.

But we are as human as the next person so we are fallible. Seeking truth requires patience to get beyond the drama that life presents us on a daily basis. Our judgments create the greatest suffering including stress and disease. One only has to live in this world to see the suffering that judgment brings. So becoming a little less judgmental is not a bad thing and very desirable to everyone not just experiencers.

When we return from a spiritual experience, we are stripped of the false personas we spent our whole life developing. We had developed these false personas to show the world who we wanted them to see us as. We wanted to appear smarter, stronger, confident, all-together, or maybe beautiful and standing tall. What ever we made up, we used these personas for different life situations. We were hiding our true self so no one could reach us. That way we were protecting ourselves. We get such an in-depth look at our true nature in a spiritually transformative experience, that we can now accept who we are without all the false trappings. How can we develop non-judgment if we continue to pickup those old false personas and are hiding our true selves.

It can be terribly frightening at first stripped bare and exposed. But to develop non-judgment you can no longer mislead someone else into a false judgment. To avoid this we have to be truthful and clear. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. After you step out as yourself you see no one can really harm your true nature because it is a part of the Universal All, God, Goddess or what ever you want to call it.

Learning more about spiritually transformative experiences can give every one of us magnificent tools for living. Living life as our true self with less judgment is just one tool in the box. I know I’m trying to use this instrument as often as possible.

David Bennett
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